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Relationships can be complicated, whether it’s with a partner, a family member, or yourself. Trying to make it all work and keep everyone happy without losing yourself can leave you feeling exhausted and resentful.
I work with people carrying unresolved issues and unmet needs that show up in the form of people-pleasing, relationship conflict, anxiety, codependency, anger, shame, addiction, or a high tolerance for mistreatment or neglect. Together, we’ll explore how your past experiences have shaped how you think, feel and respond so you can let your guard down. We will work to help you heal the wounded parts of yourself and shift from reacting out of old pain to responding and empower you to create healthier relationships and more balance.
If you are feeling overwhelmed in your relationships, stuck in patterns that aren't working, or are exhausted from holding it all together, you don't have to carry it alone. I offer trauma-informed therapy in Calabasas, and online throughout California and Oregon.
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In addition to in-office and online therapy, I offer walk and talk therapy in West Hills, because sometimes it's easier to talk about hard things when you are walking. Please feel free to reach out for a free 15-minute consultation.
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Tori Palliccia
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
​I have been a therapist for over 22 years and still love contemplating and learning about human behavior, and what makes us who we are. Throughout my career, I have worked with a variety of different clients and in several different roles as a therapist, a supervisor, a manager and a trainer. I was given the privilege of teaching in the graduate program at Loyola Marymount, teaching Human Sexuality, Addiction Counseling and Helping Skills for 7 years. I am certified as a Trauma Therapist and was also certified as a therapist and supervisor for Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
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My approach is eclectic, and trauma informed. I look at the whole person and how early experiences shape our beliefs about ourselves, our relationships and the world. I draw on attachment theory, parts work, and CBT techniques to help clients understand how thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviors keep them stuck in patterns that no longer work for them. We all create narratives about who we are based on our experiences and those narratives become the filters through which we see and hear the world. I believe healing involves examining those filters, changing what we can, learning to live with all the parts of ourselves, nurturing the wounded parts of ourselves, letting go of shame, and moving towards being authentically you.
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I’m also a big advocate for self-care and telling people how you feel. I believe that when one’s needs are ignored or pain is suppressed, they are acted out one way or another. Reconnecting with the parts of yourself that you like is key for your happiness. I practice it in my own life and reinforce it in therapy.
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I offer trauma-informed individual therapy in Calabasas and online therapy throughout California and Oregon. Many of my clients seek support with anxiety, self-worth, and the emotional weight of everyday life.
About
THERAPY
Therapy is a supportive space to process sadness, overwhelm and pain, but it's also a space that will gently challenge you to look at the patterns that keep you stuck.
It's a place to tell your story and explore your pain and reflect on how your experiences have shaped how you show up in the relationship with yourself and others.
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The truth is therapy takes work and change is one of the hardest things a person can do. It asks you to look at hard things, including yourself, and challenges you to start doing some things differently. After all, if nothing changes, nothing changes.
We all have patterns and defenses that may not work for us and finding new and more effective ways to express and handle hurt will lead to a better relationship with yourself and others.
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But not every session requires digging deep. Sometimes, people just need a space to be heard, to feel supported, and to not carry it all alone. Therapy can hold both, growth and relief. If this is the kind if support you are looking for, I offer in-person therapy in Calabasas, Walk and Talk therapy in West Hills and online Therapy throughout California. ​​​
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